Episode 277 Minisode: Are You A Princess?

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When we were little, so many of us were mesmerized by the stories about the girl who didn’t know she was special. She felt different, like she didn’t belong, but  she thought that was a fluke because no one had ever told her who she really was.  She lived in the dull black and white version of life until she found out who she really was, a princess, the lost daughter of a billionaire,  or the exact match for some

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big Hollywood producers next movie. And maybe that’s why as adults, we’re still waiting for something out there to give us validation or approval or permission to leave behind the reality we feel trapped in. But here’s the truth. And also a quote from The Wizard of Oz. You’ve had the power all along, Dorothy. In this mini-sode, I want to help you see how those old stories, the ones about being saved,

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chosen or discovered are still holding you back and keeping you stuck. And more importantly, I’ll tell you how to rewrite those stories  because once you stop waiting to feel capable, worthy and ready, you realize that it’s not only your God given right, it’s your responsibility to rescue yourself.

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My name is Colleen and I’m a mindful drinking coach helping high achieving professional women permanently reduce their alcohol consumption by 80%. Join me each week for evidence-based holistic strategies  to regulate your nervous system,  balance your dopamine,  and activate the growth mindset that makes you so powerful in other areas of your life  so you can stop worrying about losing control  and trust yourself again.  Get happy, not sober. It’s not about the alcohol.

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What was your favorite movie as a kid  that had the classic storyline where a child is either  wrongly given up for adoption or lost at the time of birth  and grows up, you know, as a pauper or as a poor person in an orphanage. I mean, there’s Annie, there’s so many Disney movies, but the point is that  they have been placed into the wrong life. They’re special.

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They’re capable of more. They’re destined for greatness.  And even though they have landed in a shitty situation,  somehow their greatness is just going to shine through. Imagine that you had a secret background where the circumstances of your life are not  what is being reflected and that you are actually capable and worthy of greatness.

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and that the situation that you currently find yourself in is only temporary. The problem with all the Disney movies is that the  heroine of our story always had to be rescued. Big Daddy Warbucks had to come save the day,  or the prince had to come find her. And so we’ve been programmed to sit in the muck  of our pity party stew,  waiting to be rescued. But what if you believed

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that changing your mindset would change  absolutely anything and manifest the reality of your life that you really want. I often think that in the future, there will be a way that you can  outsource  somebody to come in and clean up your life. Like you could go online and pick  a mindset, like who is it that you want to be? How do you want your life to look?  And that you could hire some emotionally sober

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mindset warrior like Tony Robbins you could like get that guy to come into your life  and Clean your shit up and you just like go sit on a beach somewhere and six months later  Somebody’s come in and lost the weight and cleaned out your  garage and either fixed your marriage or filed for divorce  Started the program that you need to to learn and go back to school like whatever it is you could just hire somebody to come in  and Create the habits and make the changes that you want to see but

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We also know that external circumstances doesn’t really change who you are. That’s why most lottery winners end up in bankruptcy at some point. That’s probably a very clear factor of how much money they had and how much time they have. Because you can’t change the mindset that’s creating the circumstances. And that is why changing at the identity level, instead of micromanaging all of your behaviors and habits and beating yourself up when you don’t get it perfect,  but focusing on

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who you need to be in order to do the things you need to do and spending your energy on your self narrative because you truly believe or at least want to believe that you’re worthy of greatness and that you’re special and that you could rise above any challenge.  You know, there are people  in history that have amazing minds and they came up from nowhere, from impossible circumstances. uh

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Sometimes  they live the rest of their lives successful and awesome. And sometimes there’s things that happen, but yet we always assume that that person who rose and achieved greatness is capable  of  self-correcting or navigating any obstacle. Like if something catastrophic happened to Oprah’s finances,  do you really think she’d be living in a van down by the river?

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Or would she have the mindset and the skills to rise above any circumstance that was put in her way? You can only rise to the level of problem you’re capable of solving, which is why we trust and know that these people that we admire, they’d be able to solve anything. They’d be able to correct for any catastrophic problem. And what I’m teaching you in the next chapter is that

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The ability to solve problems is a mindset. Power is a feeling, not a fact. Power can manifest in somebody who’s living behind bars  and decides to make peace with his circumstances, and he becomes a meditation teacher, or he gets a law degree.  Like, power is how you show up to your circumstances. And that’s where you can just let go of the effort.

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to try, try, try to fix, fix, fix, to change, change, change. If a 300 pound person  started thinking, eating, and doing like a 150 pound person, eventually the 150 pounds would manifest. The uncomfortable part is when the evidence of that mindset is not yet evident because  of where you started from. But learning to be comfortable

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in that in between that liminal space.  Learning to be comfortable in that space between what you believe is not yet what you see, but you’re going to believe it anyway, and you’re going to act as though is true.  Learning to manage your discomfort through that process is what allows you to change is what moves you into transformation. So as you move into your day, instead of focusing on all the shit

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you need to do and all the things that could be better or need to be fixed or you need to work on. I want you to imagine that you just got your 23andMe profile back and you just found out like you have either royal blood or secret superpowers  and it hasn’t manifested yet because you got work to do. But have a shit eat and grin on your face as you move throughout the day because you know that you’re special and that you’re capable.

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and that you’re willing to work for as long as it takes to get what you want because  you know you have to believe it in order to see it. And so your job today is just to believe in yourself as hard as you can.

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All right, thanks for listening. And if you’re a high achieving, coachable woman who is ready to commit to manifesting your best life, and you’re going to need to reduce your alcohol consumption by about 80 % so that alcohol goes back to being a pleasure instead of a soul sucking problem, get in the show notes and click the link and schedule a discovery call with me or my team.